I’m going to spell out the point of this post first, then explain.
You can be outrageous and be yourself without hurting feelings.
Having bad etiquette online doesn’t mean getting slapped by Facebook for dropping the F bomb or posting a too-sexy photo. (anyone else guilty?)
I’m talking about:
1. ranting on someone else’s post and risking losing a friend
2. going off on a bad review
3. sabotaging another author for a bad review, better sales
4. ignoring a comment that obviously requires your response. I don’t mean accidentally missing it. I mean IGNORING it.
5.taking from others and never giving. ie: never sharing their posts when they share yours
6. sending emails that sound short, snarky, don’t have salutations
7. talking in the third person: Em rocks. Em is the rock-in-ator
8. spamming where it is clearly not welcomed–groups, personal messages, friend’s FB pages, selling yourself on someone else’s post
9. texting always counts. think before you text
10. personal attacks
Committing these crimes will put you in jail with your friends and colleagues. Yes, you may have an opinion. Yes, you should express it if you desire. But be aware of where and when you should express it. If you’re unsure, sometimes it’s better to refrain from replying until you have some distance from the topic.
Of course you want to promote yourself, but going overboard just annoys the shit out of readers and friends. They don’t want your newsletter twice a month, believe me.
Emails are IMPORTANT, folks. If you sound too abrupt, the reader is offended. I’ve received emails that sent me into a raging fit after reading them. Think of your language and make sure to sugar-coat some bad news. People can’t hear your voice inflections or see your face, so use those emoticons– 🙂
Be kind, don’t spam. Don’t send a constant stream of links into your feed. Don’t continue to post every time there’s a new review on your Amazon page. Don’t post the same thing to 500 groups. Try to mix it up.
Be kind, don’t attack. I’ve had to block a few assholes who attacked me on my FB page. You might not love someone. That’s okay–expected, even. So unfriend or take them out of your feed.
Don’t ignore people. I know someone who was ignored by an author and stopped reading her books. Also, don’t post and run and forget to interact.
Don’t make fun of people’s photos they post. If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. Remember that rule?
In the end, use the manners (most of) your parents taught. Online presence is SOOOO important.